CHRISTIAN COUPLES THERAPY

Relationships are designed for us to bond, to connect, to feel warm and safe, to build a future with, to provide us with an emotional place and person to call home and build a life with.   Marriage is a sacred bond in the eyes of God, God designed this sacred union as a to be a place to move forward because the ties are strong with traits of commitment and trust, but as we have seen all around us, relationships can become extremely difficult to manage, and challenge even those that are so sure of the strength of their bond at the beginning of their relationship.   People find themselves asking, “where did it go wrong?”  “What can I do to connect again?” “What do I say to heal this wound?  “How can I build their trust again?” Life is unpredictable, and external stressors like parenting, moving, changing jobs, financial strain, and business management can strain the deep connection that once brought two people together. Nevertheless, there are fundamental principles to guide a Christian marriage - to steer it in the direction of faith, connection, trust and commitment and ultimately safety; a Christian relationship that brings glory to God and joy to the couple themselves and to all who surround them. 

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A successful Christian marriage involves more than just the two individuals; it requires the presence of Jesus as the third party in the centre of their lives. To achieve God's vision for our marital relationships, we must first understand and support each other's needs, desires and vision for each other's lives, which will ultimately sustain and nourish our emotional connection. Both partners need to comprehend what this means, how it will function in their relationship, and how they can work together to achieve it.  Before most couples can reach this place however, Christian couples, in fact all couples need to learn to listen in order to heal likely deep wounds that have occurred due to many differences and heartache over the years of their relationship.  This sounds difficult, but with commitment to push through, communicating in a healing restorative manner, will build faith and trust in one another again. Surely anyone reading this now, who is in pain, will believe there is hope, and there is, you just have to be willing to try, and to try you need to reach out.

Christian couples therapy can therefore in time, with restorative listening and communicating, will help partners begin  to understand and learn their partners' respective coping mechanisms and belief systems and how this impacts each other negatively.   Failure to understand one another's coping mechanisms and belief systems can lead to negative assumptions and misunderstandings, causing hurt and potentially irreparable damage to the relationship.

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If you're looking to improve your marriage or are experiencing significant conflict, seeing a Christian psychologist can be an invaluable experience. With the help of a professional, you can identify and address unhealthy core beliefs, learn to connect with your spouse, and incorporate your Christian values into the therapy process. Redeemed by Michelle Barratt Psychology is dedicated to providing Christian therapeutic care and counselling for Christian individuals and families in Toowong, Brisbane, Wynnum-Manly, and Redland Bay.